Just as most things are wrapping up for the holidays, I'm launching; this is the first episode of The Better Boundaries Podcast!! Yahoo! Let's lean in and harness this full moon in Gemini energy, plus get some tips on how to begin to heal past emotional wounds that are keeping us stuck in the past. Get grounded with this episode and breathe deeply into your body. Enjoy!
In today's episode I jam on:
Staring in January 2023 I'll be releasing a podcast episode every Monday! Here's what you can look forward to in the New Year:
References:
Bria Wannamaker, RP.
@betterboundariespodcast
www.briawannamaker.com
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As always, please remember that these podcast episodes are for educational purposes only and are not a substitute for medical healthcare or mental healthcare. Podcasts are available as an educational and entertainment resource and are not advice, recommendations, or suggestions. Please seek out the necessary professional services if you require assistance.
Just as most things are wrapping up for the holidays, I'm launching; this is the first episode of The Better Boundaries Podcast!! Yahoo! Let's lean in and harness this full moon in Gemini energy, plus get some tips on how to begin to heal past emotional wounds that are keeping us stuck in the past. Get grounded with this episode and breathe deeply into your body. Enjoy!
In today's episode I jam on:
Staring in January 2023 I'll be releasing a podcast episode every Monday! Here's what you can look forward to in the New Year:
References:
Bria Wannamaker, RP.
@betterboundariespodcast
www.briawannamaker.com
Support the show, buy COFFEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!
As always, please remember that these podcast episodes are for educational purposes only and are not a substitute for medical healthcare or mental healthcare. Podcasts are available as an educational and entertainment resource and are not advice, recommendations, or suggestions. Please seek out the necessary professional services if you require assistance.
OK, so I just want to say, first of all, before we dive into this, that I will be releasing episodes every Monday starting in January 2023. I really felt called to record and release this episode, this first episode, immediately, a few weeks before the New Year. Today is a full moon, so we're going to be talking about that. It's Wednesday, December 7th. 2022 and so there's a full moon tonight and all kinds of cool things happening within our solar system and astrology. So I want to talk about that. And I wanted to have this available for you immediately. But then you'll wait a few weeks till the New Year and then I'm going to have new episodes come out every single Monday to start. So there are a ton of interviews that I've been. Doing and banking and I'm so excited to share all of those with you, so it's going to be great. So today, first of all, I would like to start off with inviting you. If you're not driving to just take a minute and close your eyes. If you have the time, you have the space. Just take a second and feel into your body by breathing deeply.
Often we just, you know, breathe in our chest area and that is similar to hyperventilating. And we don't really take a nice calm deep breath from our diaphragm like ever. So breathe deeply. And that's what I mean when I say feel into your body. So just take a second to close your eyes. And get really comfortable. And I want to invite you to. Listened to this podcast and I don't just mean listen and like do a bunch of stuff. I mean like really listen and take this time for yourself to learn something new and explore something different. So breathing deeply and just. Allowing that for yourself. And taking that energy with you. For the rest of the day. As well would be my hope and intention is that. You at anytime you feel like you need to pause. Get grounded. Breathe deeply into your belly, expanding your diaphragm. Deep breath in through your nose. And allowing everything to deflate. Breathing out, releasing it all. Behind me, Mika is growling, and I'm not sure why. Interesting. She's releasing it all, I guess.
So nice deep breath in. Last time getting really grounded in your body.
Mika is my dog. For those of you who don't know, she's sitting behind me like a little lumbar support pillow. In my office chair.
Deep breath in. And release it all. And so I invite you at any time throughout the day, return back to that state of calm, that state of grounded energy. And. I think that we hold more wisdom inside of us than we know. We're always looking externally and it creates a lot of noise. And we're always trying to listen to things and watch things and read things and write things down and remember things. And then we learn things and we it becomes, you know, knowledge and wisdom and we can gain new routines and rituals and practices. But sometimes, and you know when this is true for you, you know when things feel too noisy and loud and messy and chaotic. And that might be a sign that it's time to tune out the external for a moment and just turn inwards and return to that deep, grounded state of just you. Just you and turning inward for the answers, I guess. Yeah, turning inward. And asking deep questions, you know, asking one layer deeper instead of, you know, looking at things as like why is this happening to me? Why is this going on in my life right now? What's under that? So. And a deeper question that you could ask yourself could look like, um. Instead of just saying why is this happening to me? What's going on in my life, maybe you ask what's the lesson I need to learn here? What am I learning from this experience and that doesn't? I'm not talking about like. Intense, like grief or trauma or abuse or neglect, those things are never OK. But I mean for all of the little like. Challenges that we face and conflict
and resistance. Looking at those moments as going a smidgen deeper and asking questions deeper inside of you versus just breezing through things and looking externally for those answers. Sometimes we already have that wisdom within us. So I'd like to invite you to carry that with you throughout the day. That openness, that focused concentration, and the ability to return back to your body, back to your breath, back to yourself in full trust, that you have the answers available to you. So for today. I want to talk about this full moon. I want to talk about this full moon and full moons are typically a time for a little bit of change, observation, discomfort, reflection, and. I feel like I know personally anyways. I always want to make impulsive decisions around the time that a full moon happens. I feel a lot of discomfort and disease in some areas of my life and this is like a pattern. And then I'll look at the calendar or like ask Alexa. Um ohh crap, she heard me. Alexa, when's the next full moon? There's a microphone now.
Which electronically disconnects the microphone. Ohh when pushed a red light appears. Think and your device will process any sound. Ohh. OK, alright. Well, thank you for your help. But Alexa, when's the next full moon? The next full moon is tonight at 11:08 PM. OK. So well now that that's over with. No. I will often like Google it or ask her when it is because I'm like, ah, I knew it, I like, I knew it was coming up. I felt very like impulsive and I wanted to change all these things and do all these things. And yes, full moons can be a time for like change and shedding, but I feel like it needs to be done in a more intuitive, tapped, in connected, grounded way. Quote UN strategic if you will and by like first of all taking the time to observe what's going on in our lives, reflect and really get clear on what's important for us. I think that's how we can make change versus just making decisions off of a whim. So I think that's really important that we recognize that. So how full moon happens is. The sun is on one side, OK. So we'll like, let's just go through our little solar system for a second, so. The sun is there. It's doing its thing. It's shining bright in the sky, and we on the earth are going around the sun. We are orbiting the sun, and always. So that's what a year is. It takes us about approximately
365 days to go around the sun. That's why, like sometimes people when they say happy birthday to you, they'll be like, enjoy, like your. I don't know, 87th trip around the side or like whatever it is. So it takes approximately a year for the Earth to orbit the sun. And while we are doing that, the moon is orbiting us. Like this moon that we have. There are other moons out there, but like this is the moon that is in the Earth's gravitational pull. So the moon is orbiting us while we orbit the sun and so when the moon is at a certain point. It takes about like what is it, a month, like 28 days or something for the moon to get to this certain point again. That's why there's a full moon once every month. And so it's when it's on the the earth is in the middle like right at the exact like same kind of line that goes sun, Earth, moon. So the moon and the sun are playing monkey in the middle with the earth, the earth is in the middle of the two and the light that reflects off of. From the sun to the earth. We can see the whole entire like moons face at that point. And at the other times when the moon is orbiting us throughout the month, the light is just reflecting differently off of the Earth, the light from the sun. So I hope that makes sense, but that's what's going on up there and that's why we see the different phases of the moon. It's just because how everything is moving. And keep in mind too that it's not a perfect perfectly. Circular like round a perfect circle orbit that the planets are doing, they're doing more of like an egg shaped movement. So in fact today there's also going to be a point where Mars is going to be pretty close to the Earth and when I say pretty close, it's like 62 million kilometers away or something like that, but just because of the egg shaped. Pattern, it's like different at different points in the orbit. So that's a cool thing. And then also today because of this rotation, this
orbit, it's they're going to line up all of those things that I just mentioned, the sun and this is an order like. Left to right kind of deal on picture like one straight line. So it's going to go sun, Earth, moon, Mars, they will all be in one line and our moon is going to block out the view of Mars for a moment. So that's kind of neat. That's like super interesting because that's not something that happens all of the time. So like astronomers and whatnot, like, they won't be able to. Necessarily see Mars from the earth, to my understanding at one point, because our moon will be blocking Mars. So that's really cool. They're all going to be like in alignment at one time. So I don't know about you. I find that stuff super interesting. And that's just like my base knowledge of doing like a little bit of research on it. But that ***** cool. OK. I found it very fascinating. And so this particular moon. So we know how we have all the constellations in the sky, and we have all of our astrological signs. So the moon falls in different places when it's. Full like if we're looking at the full moon, like if they say oh there's a full moon and Capricorn like it's because that's that's where it is in the sky as we're moving and rotating so.
This full moon is going to fall in the Gemini sign, OK? And so Gemini is an air sign. And don't just stop listening if you're you're like, oh, I'm not a Gemini, I don't care. But we're all connected, you see, so Gemini is an air sign. And so air signs typically have traits that, you know, they're intelligent. And funny, very sociable, kind of like free spirited and just I guess yes, social is a really good way to describe them like air signs and think of it as kind of like. Floaty people. Like, I don't even know what that means. But like maybe like flaky, like OK. If I had to look at friends characters, I would say like Phoebe is more of an air sign, OK? And like Monica is probably an earth sign. Like she's probably a Capricorn, and I can heavily relate to that because I am a Capricorn. OK? I feel my inner Monica traits coming out that type A personality gets it done. Workaholic vibes. But air signs, think of it as kind of like the opposite of that. Like and water signs, you know, water, they're able to go with the flow, they're emotional, all those good things. And then there's also fire signs who are very passionate. They can be headstrong at times. Those are just like very surface level definitions of the different elements that. That each sign is I guess guided under um, I can think of a different word of and guided but there's one on the show of my tongue. But anyway, so air signs can be very social and bubbly and outgoing and just like think of them as like Phoebe from friends, like kind of like floating along, like willing to, you know, go, I wanna say go with the flow, but willing to be flexible and like adaptable. And. So something that can help you with knowing this that this moon is going to be in an air sign in Gemini is
helping you to get grounded. So that's why I started this off with that breathing exercise, which you can come back to at any point, including right now, taking a deep breath in through your nose. Filling your diaphragm, feeling your belly expand and deflating, allowing everything to come out and release. And really even thinking, too, of getting your feet flat on the floor and getting grounded. And that's extremely essential because when we get too much of one thing, that's when, you know, there's imbalances. So we want to make sure at this time when we're all going through the full moon in Gemini that we get regrounded into ourselves and we, you know, tossed a little bit of Earth in there, OK. But we can also use this opportunity to harness that full moon in Gemini and lean into, lean into because I'm and when I say get grounded, I don't mean resist. I'm not saying resist the air because there are beautiful, beautiful pieces and traits that go into air signs as well. So I don't mean create resistance, I mean create balance between getting grounded and then leaning into some of the air. Traits like being outgoing and bubbly and social and maybe using this opportunity if it's in work to network, if it's in your relationship, maybe you go on a date or just go out for a walk together. You don't have to like spend money on anything. Maybe you like really have a conversation, like looking eye to eye with your partner, or you play a game with your family like a board game. Sit down, whatever it is like. Try connecting with other people at this time if you're going to try and lean into and harness the energy of this air sign. Full moon. Now this is the final full moon of 2022.
so up next we have a wolf moon and it's going to be in cancer, the Zodiac sign cancer, and it will be on January 6th. I'm not sure what time but January. 62023 next one. So this is a cold moon in Gemini. The cold moon is the name of it. And I mean the winter solstice coming up soon. So we are currently, we have a couple more weeks of where the darkness is longer than the daytime. OK, there is more darkness than light and I think this is a really good opportunity while we're going through this final. This final full moon, this kind of darkness before the dawn, when the nights are longer than the days, essentially, I think it's a really good time to look inward, turn inward and think about how can I shine my light a little bit brighter? How can I shine brighter? And just so you know, I will be releasing more full moon episodes. And so there'll be another one on the the wolf moon. Cancer coming up and just as we're talking about the elements, cancer is a water sign. So like I was saying before, water signs tend to be able to go with the flow more readily. They are more emotional sensitive folks and there's many other traits there. And so we will work on balancing that full moon when we get to it and we will work on how do we lean into that energy as well. But for right now looking at this time. During this final full moon of 2022, how can we? Harness this energy to be sociable and outgoing, also getting grounded in ourselves and our bodies and turning inward
for the answers and. Also really taking time to turn inward. To, like I was saying, allow our light to shine because it is dark. You know, I was going for a walk in the neighborhood with my dog today and I saw everyone's Christmas lights out and decorations and was kind of wondering like it's so. It's so big, like so many people decorate and and I I feel like whether you know, whether they celebrate celebrate Christmas or the holidays or any other type of traditional cultural celebration at this time, whether they have kids or not, whether they have money or not. Like it really looks like a lot of people put out lights, put out decorations and it allows them. Chance to be creative and expressive. And I was thinking about it too. I'm like, you know, it is darker. There are more hours of darkness than there are daylight right now until December 21st, the solstice and then the days begin to get longer at that point. But. I was thinking how. I don't know if This is why the tradition started, but I was like it is really nice that we can have lights and decorations and add that fun. Yeah, an element of fun and lightness into these dark, dreary months. I mean, if you're living and we're living up here on the north, OK, it's dark and dreary and, and I know that might not be the case elsewhere, but I think it's still a really beautiful thing that we can all kind of have that in common. Like even in places where they don't get snow or it's not as dark or it's still
like above 0 degrees Celsius. Um, and that they're decorating as well and having lights up as well. I think it's creates this unique oneness about the holiday time. So I wonder too if this is a great time to look inward for the light in us that is able to shine through the darkness. Whether you're going something through something challenging, whether you have things come up here and there, whether there's something heavy and chronic. Going on for you that you haven't been able to navigate your way out of, can you look deeply and find yourself worth when everything is stripped down, when you have nothing? Who are you? What is your light? What do you bring to this world? What did you bring to this world when you were born without even having to do anything? And I think that's such a beautiful place to be is. And that kind of brings me back to the air sign of that, the lightness of air, right? That Gemini traits. It's just when you look at it, it's, it's light, it's not heavy. And how do we bring that into? How do we bring that? To our lives on a daily basis and kind of float through things with a little bit more ease because there's such this emphasis on I need to be doing. I always need to be productive. And I even find myself when I ask myself that question, like first of all, like, oh, what do I bring to this world? It's like, oh, well, I'm funny. I'm really caring, I'm very thoughtful for other people. Like, I always remember people's birthdays and send them messages and it's like. Know that's also not what you bring to this world. What do you bring? That's just you. That's inherent yourself worth. What do you bring just as a being?
Without having to do anything, without having to perform or be funny or be giving to other people or loving or thoughtful, who are you without all these different masks and personality traits? So looking for that light and taking some time to reflect and find where that light is so that you can shine it and share it with other people and so that when **** happens in your life you can still participate. In life, because you know who you are so that your spirit doesn't get broken when **** hits the fan. And I want to share one final thing with you, and it's this book that called to me. I never take anything from the, you know, the little libraries in the neighborhoods. I dropped a book off there before, but I haven't like taken any books because I'm like Super duper, multi passionate, we all know. This and like always trying to do a bazillion things. And I'm a very slow reader and I have like 4 books started right now. I mean I feel like I have four books on the go at any time and it's just like feels overwhelming. I'm like cool. Haven't like really touched any of these, so I never. Which is also like a side note I listened to, I can't remember his last name is but Neil, I should look him in this show notes. He's Canadian and he's an author and I listened to him on a podcast the other day and he was just encouraging people to read. He was like, he's like how I read is literally just looking through the table of contents. When I see something that pops out to me, I just go to that page, I read that page. She's like, that's still reading. You don't have to finish something cover to cover. So I do feel very empowered by having. Excuse me, that information. I love that. Um, so I literally walked past this little library
the other day and then I was like, I need to go. Back I want to look inside the little library. And which, I don't know, I legit like never do that. So my dog and I walked back, but like it was a Saturday, it was a super chill day. I had slept in taking a nice easy morning and I also didn't have anything planned for the rest of the day. So it's like this, which rarely happens, but I was making a point to not create A to do list and just go with the flow. So I went back to this little library and I opened it. And I saw the spine of this book. And I literally said out loud, I was like, no way, no way. I'm like, this is so perfect for me. It's called emotional healing with angels. A spiritual guide to knowing, healing, and freeing your true self and. That is like I'm all about that. And the author is like from, like went to school university in Kingston. They're from Ottawa. I was like, this is so cool. It's so kismet. So of course I grabbed that book. I carried it closely the whole way home. It was like lightly raining. So I, like, put it under my sweater and was like holding my stomach. I'm like probably looks like I'm pregnant. I'm like walking, like holding my belly. And I was like, this is actually kind of cute. I'm like excited to be pregnant in the future. Because like, I just feel like I would hold my belly all the time. But anyway, I digress. So I am. I randomly opened this book up to a page before I started the podcast and highlighted information that I want to share with you in closing of this full moon and 1st episode of the Better Boundaries Podcast and so this. In
this piece of the book, I opened up to a random page, page 96. It says. There is a process and procedure for healing emotional scars, and it talks about this pattern. And so if you're hearing this right now, this is entirely. Random, but you're also meant to hear it. It's a sign that maybe you have some emotional needs that you need to go through. This is not what it says in the book, by the way. I'm just going to, I'll read you the stuff in the book and I will also add Lib as per usual. I'm not going to read it verbatim, but so this is my message to you is that this is definitely a sign, OK that I opened this and I'm sharing it with you and you are tuning in. The book says there is. Process and procedure for healing emotional scars. OK, and the authors go through a list of these processes and procedures and I will just pick out to you the most important things that I see here. And it's number one, you need to recognize the patterns, issues and habits that are going on in your life that are causing you discomfort and disease. Maybe even illness? Mentally. Physically drained, not doing well Healthwise. Taking a look at things, recognize the patterns, issues and habits and to whom they belong. Is this your **** or is this somebody else's ****? Is this from your past? Is this from a past life? Is this your parents ****? Is this your partnership? Is this your workplace ****? Is this your ****? Is this your perspective? In your way of looking at and navigating the world. OK, so that's The author has
recognized the patterns, issues and habits and to whom they belong. Step one. It also says incorporate prayer into your life. And even if you are in no way religious, you can still pray like I believe that. Praying is giving thanks, and it's also taking that moment to tune in. I've been trying to do this before meals because I noticed, like, I sit down and I literally just like shovel food in my face. So I've been trying to take a pause and say, you know, thank you for, like all of the steps it took for me to get this food and this meal in front of me. Like, do you know how much that takes to? Um, be able to afford food for farmers. Like if you're having eggs and with cheese on them. For farmers to be able to produce all of that. For it to go to the store, for the store to sell it for you to pick it up. For your eggs to not be cracked and broken like through their journey to the store. For you to have gas in your car to go pick them up and to have money to pay for it and to come home and to have the skills to cook it. Like I could just be eaten. I don't know, chips and pop, but I wasn't. I was eating a meal that I had the knowledge, education, skills, independence to be able to prepare for myself. So. And pausing in those moments where you really take the time to reflect and say thank you and notice and I say to allow this food to nourish my body. Like allow me to indulge and enjoy it. Because if we're talking eating disorder stuff, typically in the past for me it's been about just like getting this food down and pretend that it's not happening. Like pretend I'm not eating. Let's not think about it. Let's not enjoy it. You don't deserve this type of deal. Don't have too
much, don't enjoy it. You might want more. Type of deal. So now for me, it's really about taking that pause to thank be thankful for the journey in getting that food to me and on my plate and then also actually allowing it to nourish my body and do what it's supposed to do and allowing my body to know what it's supposed to do with this food. And that's really helped. And I think that's how we like, people talk about intuitive eating, but like that's what that is you recognize. Then when you're full, you recognize when you're eating. Super fast. You recognize when you know maybe it doesn't taste good, maybe you're in a rush to eat, but you're soup, you didn't heat it up enough and you're eating lukewarm soup and you like it piping hot, you recognize those things. So that's a really beautiful piece. So the author says step one, recognize the patterns, issues and habits and to whom they belong. And Step 2. Create a prayer ritual. OK? Create a prayer ritual for yourself and it can simply look like giving thanks and getting in touch with yourself and connected. If you aren't in tune with some kind of divine connection or spirituality or religious beliefs, it can simply look like getting grounded, connected with yourself, and giving thanks and gratitude. Also. Take the time to reflect, because member step one was who did these emotional scars belong to? Take the time to reflect and picture, giving it back whatever. It isn't yours. You can do this in your mind. You can do this visually by journaling and writing things out. Give it back. Give it back to the person or people who that's their ****. You can like draw a little box, little square on a piece of paper. Give it back to them, OK? Write down the things that are yours and the things that are not yours. Um.
Then take the time to the authors say forgiveness is key. I think forgiving yourself and and we can own things that way. And I heard Alison Bird on a podcast say on the Kathy Heller podcast. Alison Bird was interviewed and at one point she says your life circumstances do not have to be your life sentence that was paraphrased. I don't know what those might have been her exact words but your life circumstances. Do not have to be your life sentence. And that's what I see forgiveness as we look at things and we're like, ah, I've failed so poorly. I have wasted all this time. I must be stuck here now because it it's. Somehow that's painful, but it's less painful than forgiving ourselves. So what I mean by that is, say you're really struggling in one area. The ideal circumstances you would be like, OK, you know what, I'm gonna. I'm gonna own that I ****** ** you know, I wasn't paying attention. I wasn't giving this enough energy. And I'm going to forgive myself so that I'm able to move on and try new things and engage in new behaviors and move past this. But we lack that forgiveness. And we say stuck in ego, we stay there, we stay really, really stuck. We're not able to give ourselves that grace, that compassion and. Be able to move forward in forgiveness, and you have to be able to move forward and forgiveness to move past your fears and through these circumstances that will bring you to the other side. But then instead we accept them as our life sentence versus OK, this was a period in my life and I'm ready to move through it now. So the book says forgiveness, forgive yourself, forgive others. And I think this is also important here that
I mention boundaries because you can you can forgive. And then also upholding boundaries and making sure that this should don't happen again. OK, OK. Whether you did yourself wrong or whether somebody else did, you're wrong. It doesn't mean it has to happen again. That's where boundaries come in. And we use the boundaries to protect ourselves and keep ourselves safe while also allowing us to not completely close off. And we can still engage in life, right? If somebody does you wrong in a relationship, maybe your boundary is I'm shutting the door on you. You are no longer in my life. But that doesn't mean I'm going to shut the door. On the rest of the relationships in my life and my future opportunities to be in relationship. So that's what boundaries do, OK? And then finally, the book says to ask for healing. And I view that as asking yourself, attuning to your needs, right? Asking yourself, what do I need now to heal, to grow, to change, to move forward through this forgiveness, through this fear. What do I need now? Where, where do my steps lie? And I love the word healing. It feels so good to me to say healing. Like, how do I heal this? What do I need? To heal this. Because to me that is like, I always picture like a cut on my hand healing, and then it's like it's just gone. Like maybe you have a little scar there, but the there's not bleeding anymore. It's not in pain anymore. And that's how I view emotional healing as well, is what do I need now in order to be able to move through this and not be like getting blood everywhere, right? So you're not like having angry outbursts at people and just like you. I've talked about this example before, like me dropping a Mason jar in the kitchen, and like in previous times I would have bled all over the place, quote UN quote. Like in. I mean emotionally bled like freaked out, had a meltdown because I dropped this, but
more recently just getting my own emotional scars healed and like. Healing the busyness of everyday life. I've been able to slow down enough to be like ohh OK like that's not a that's not a big deal. Like I dropped a Mason jar and so we can emotionally, just like the finger on our cut bleeds everywhere. If we don't heal it, put a bandage on it, put some antibiotic ointment on it, we can emotionally bleed everywhere as well. So that's insanely important. That's a huge piece of the puzzle is to ask yourself, what do I need? How can I attune to my needs better? How can I allow this healing to happen? And. Move forward through it. And yeah, so I hope this was helpful for you. I think this is a wonderful place to end. You have a ton to think about after this episode, so do lots of journaling, lots of processing. Please send me a DM on Instagram at Better Boundaries Podcast and if you have any questions or whatnot, I am available to chat about things and and answer any questions. So yeah, let me know. And I can't wait to share this podcast with you in its entirety. I'm really, really looking forward to this. I hope you enjoyed this first episode of the Better Batteries Podcast and I will see you in the new year. Happy holidays! Bye!!